Whether you are a stay at home wife and mom, or woman that takes care of her home and works outside, here is a little grace. Your most important role is praiseworthy. I love the way Yvetta breaks down the qualifications, duties, and compensation. Read on and be blessed!
One time, as a Civil Engineer in my mid-twenties, my boss asked me about my career goals. I told him that I wanted to become the best engineer I could be for as long as I was doing this. And then, mustering up an extra ounce of courage (or foolishness), I added, “but eventually I want to be a stay at home mom.”
You may not be surprised to hear that I was terminated from my job a few weeks later. When I look back at that conversation and its result, two things become evident:
While I may not have recognized it in my head when I said it, as we know, “Out of the abundance of the heart, his mouth speaks.” (Luke 6:45). Even then, my heart believed that home management is a career, not just something you do instead of a real job.
My words had put me on the fast track to the career my heart truly desired. But, as with any career, nobody signs up without first learning what’s being asked of them. King Solomon wrote almost an entire chapter about “an excellent wife”, and I knew that’s where I’d find my new job description. Now, I realize Proverbs 31 was written a long time ago and the specifics aren’t all relevant today. But, the values and character traits of this praiseworthy woman transcend time and space.
Below I have written a job description for the “Excellent Wife” based on the verses from Proverbs 31, which are referenced on each line. You might be wondering what to do with it. Is it a measuring stick? I hope not! I fall short on many counts. I believe this framework casts a shadow of how God sees us through the righteousness of Christ. He already knows our worth because he declared it when he paid a great price for us. But more than that, he sees this boundless potential in us, and as we speak and believe these things about ourselves, we stretch and fill those roles that challenge us. So remind your spirit often that you are that woman, and God already sees your potential. Walk as he sees you— as the virtuous and capable woman, wife, or mom.
Position: Virtuous and capable wife.
Qualifications and skills: